Sex is important to both humans and animals and God, the creator of heaven and earth, also attested to the act. No wonder He instructed human beings in His words to continue to procreate and dominate the world.
But do you know that sex is very important to women’s health? Medical experts, especially obstetricians, gynecologists, reproductive health experts biologists, as well as relationship therapists and sex educators at different fora have submitted that sex, especially fulfilled sexual intercourse, activate metabolism, boost immune system and also refresh the memory.
It has also been discovered that sex is a good form of exercise as it helps some men to live better. Frequent sexual intercourse, according to Dr Jan Leslie Shifren, an Associate Professor of Obstetrics, Gynecology and Reproductive Biology at Harvard Medical School is associated with reduced heart attack risk.
Dr Leslie Shifren further stated that sex in women helps the vagina to remain lubricated, elastic, and healthy, apart from being a needed fun. However, it has been observed that some married women often misbehave in their work places, shops, place or centre of trading or business. Critical assessment of such women could reveal many factors as responsible for such unpalatable attitude.
Even maintaining a close relationship with such women who are always aggressive or displaying a naughty behavior towards their colleagues may lead to understanding the reasons why such woman display aggressiveness.
Proper investigation and diagnosis of such action in such women may also lead to the fact that such women are not enjoying matrimonial harmony Many things often contribute to happiness and fulfillment in marriage apart from money and decent home.
A major determinant of fulfillment in marriage especially for married women has been discovered to be good sexual relationship with their partner.Relationship therapists, sex educators as well as family medicine experts have further discovered through various researches on different homes, especially among couples that a woman who is not sexually fulfilled or a woman who is sexually deprived may suddenly begin to misbehave or display some strange characters or behaviour like aggressiveness.
Promiscuity and extra-marital affairs are today rampant. The foundation factor or reason for this act among couples is sexual unfilfilment and deprivation, while inability to cope with harsh or tight economy of the country coupled with abject poverty confronting the people are also other contributing factors.
Professor Modupe Onadeko, a community health expert, who practiced for many years at the University College Hospital (UCH), Ibadan, Oyo State, in some of her submissions at different fora observed that the rate at which women, especially young ladies in school are selling their bodies in exchange for money is a thing of concern, just as she observed that unhealthy or illicit office affair among married women is on the increase.
The don also noticed that though many women are receiving good salary and good welfare packages in their places of work, yet, some are still engaging in extra-marital sex.
A Professor of Epidemiology in the Department of Family and Preventive Medicine at the University of California, San Diego, United States of America, Elizabeth Barrett-Connor, also submitted that lack of fulfilled sex in women, especially married women, could trigger different strange behavior in such category of women, adding that sexual dissatisfaction in women would create unhappiness, aggressiveness, as well as other strange or unexpected behavior in such women. Lack of regular, satisfying fulflled sexual intercourse between couples is responsible for promiscuity or what others called extra marital affairs.A woman who is not enjoying her husband sexually at home is 50% bound to look outside in order to compensate for this important aspect of marriage union, shich sexually active women consider as a big gap The same hing is applicable to married men and this is often noticeable n their work place behaviours, especially to their colleagues most of the time, stated both Professor Barrett Conor and Onadeka.
What sex does in marriage.
Sex, especially good healthy fulfilled or satisfied sexual intercourse among couples often activate the union, solidify the relationship and create happiness in homes If a man is not all that rich, but he is performing his sexual obligation to his wife regularly, the partner will be happy and be confident of him.
This would always raise the hope that “tomorrow will be better and all hope is not lost” But if a man is financially buoyant and fulfilling his domestic obligations as at when due but failed to satisfy his wife sexual desire, there may be conflict. or “crisis” in the home because research has shown that no woman will be happy with a partner who cannot give her sexual satisfaction.
“It will interest you to know that many couple are not finding their partners sexually interesting, while some don’t even have time for each other. Some women are so concerned about their carrier, business or job to the extent that they don’t have time for their husband, while some men are also so much engaged in their business to the extent that they are always on the road, or in the air pursuing profits from their business.
This, however, is having a negative impact on many homes, thus in the process of seeking solution to this problem outside the home is exposing both concerned to different diseases, especially sexually transmitted diseases among which is HIM/AIDS, added Dr Femi Ajala.
Another medial doctor, Dr Femi Aluko said, when couples have good sexual relationship at home, research have shown that it will foster symbiotic, mutual relationship at home. Not only that it will foster cordial relationship with colleagues at work place or in business environment and that is why you discover that some women are always happy, lively, amiable and friendly at their duty posts Those who are suffering from lack of fulfilled or satisfying sexual intercourse have been found to be wicked, unfriendly, aggressive and get offended easily over trivial issues with their colleagues or business partners.
Women experiencing such sexual deficit according to Dr Gboyega Elemide may suffer from emotional and psycholog”-cal deprivation. So the action of such women in their work places will be different from their counterparts who are enjoying their husbands.
Factors that could impede sexual enjoyment. Lack of organism in women could be a major factor. A woman who failed to attain orgasm during sexual intercourse may see sex as punishment or an act not worth it Female genital mutilation is another factor. Female genital cutting or mutilation will deprive women of attaining sexual Satisfaction and can also expose them to HIV/AIDS and even hepatitis. There are many other complications and dangers attached to female circumcision (ie FC) apart from depriving women of sexual satisfaction and that is why there is a serious campaign against this act in the country.
Professor Onadeko once said that “female genital cuttings deprive women of sexual satisfaction. During the cuttings which we are discouraging parents from practicing anyway, the sensitive part of the female sexual organs could be tampered with and this could lead to the removal of organs responsible for sexual arousal and satisfaction in many women” FGC also exposes women to hepatitis, leakage between the rectum and female vagina to the extent that there could be mix-up between faecal wastages and vaginal.
Frigidity or sexual coldness is another reason why some women don’t enjoy sexual intercourse.
A woman who is experiencing frigidity cannot experience sexual satisfaction.
With additional materials from; Western Post September-October 4, 2014.