One of the greatest disservice to sex, is the pornography industry and movies. They glorify sex although wrongly, sending wrong information about sex.
Unfortunately, most youngsters learn about sex, from these industries and grow up, with distorted perverse ways, with only interest in satisfying self and not a mutual give and take, to get the divine benefit of sex. Partners often come out feeling used.
Today, we shall look at how to listen to a woman’s sex language and get her satisfied while worshipping her and also the man, getting the best in return.
Our devotional reading, is taken from, THE TAO OF LOVE AND SEX By Jolan Chang, particularly Chapter Seven at pages 70-78.
Emphasis on female satisfaction
The Tao of Loving owes its existence largely to the ancient Chinese desire to satisfy women as well as men. When the Tao of Loving was first formulated – several thousand years ago – people understood this. The Tao was known at that time as the Tao of Yin and Yang Communion, a title that underlines the harmony of male and female.
For Yin and Yang to be in harmony, a man must satisfy his woman completely. Emphasis on this concept is seen in several dialogues between Huang Ti and his advisor, Su Nü, on how to interpret a woman’s reactions in love-making. In this part of the dialogue, Su Nü describes a woman’s five basic responses to a man’s overtures:
- If she desires to have him the man can notice a change in the way she breathes.
- If she desires him to enter, her nostrils will be extended and her mouth open.
- If she desires the coming of the tide of Yin her body will be shaking and holding him tight.
- If she is anxious to have complete satisfaction her perspiration will be copious.
- If her desire is thoroughly satisfied her body will be stretched and her eyes closed as if in deep sleep.
The following are ten more detailed indications of a woman’s response and how the man is expected to do all he can to please her. The ten indications are:
•She holds the man tight with both her hands. It indicates that she wishes closer body contact.
•She raises her legs. It indicates that she wishes closer friction of her clitoris.
•She extends her abdomen. It indicates that she wishes shallower thrusts.
•Her thighs are moving. It indicates that she is greatly pleased.
•She uses her feet like hooks to pull the man. It indicates that she wishes deeper thrusts.
•She crosses her legs over his back. It indicates that she is anxious for more.
•She is shaking from side to side. It indicates that she wishes deep thrusts on both the left and the right.
•She lifts her body pressing him. It indicates that she is enjoying it extremely.
•She relaxes her body. It indicates that the body and limbs are pacified.
•Her vulva is flooding. Her tide of Yin has come. The man can see for himself that his woman is happy.
Tao of Loving Master Wu Hsien writing during the Han Dynasty (206 B.C.-A.D. 219) also lists a set of indications of female arousal:
🌹She is panting and her voice is shaking uncontrollably.
🌹She closes her eyes and her nostrils are widened and she is unable to speak.
🌹She is staring at the man;
•Her ears turn red and her face is flushing but the tip of her tongue turns slightly colder.
•Her hands are hot and her abdomen warm and at the same time her language becomes almost unintelligible.
•Her expression looks as though she is bewitched and her body is soft as jelly and her limbs are droopy.
•The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry and her body is pressing the man.
•The pulses of her vulva become noticeable and her secretions are flooding.
To this Wu Hsien adds a word of caution: ‘All the above indications prove that she is greatly aroused. But the man must keep the situation in control and benefit from the communion without undue haste.’
Until very recently the idea that female satisfaction is important was revolutionary. And it has literally taken a ‘sexual revolution’ in the West to get it accepted.
In ancient China, however, it was basic to the philosophy of Taoism. When the Tao of Loving was first formulated, Chinese society probably had only just changed from matriarchy to patriarchy.
The position of women at that point was nearly equal to that of men.
For instance, three out of four advisors to Huang Ti in that period were women. Perhaps this is why the earliest Tao of Loving texts stress the importance of mutual harmony and equality in sex relations.
